Good News? Bad News? NO News?

Hey Patti,

It's been my experience that when it comes to socializing, people really don't want to talk about about bad news or discuss any problems I'm having. But it also seems they don't want to hear about any big successes or stuff that's awesome in my life either. So, what exactly is the point of socializing if they don't care about about either my struggles or my wins?

What The Hell

Dear What The...

I think the issue here is you need to distinguish between true FRIENDS, and people who seem like friends but are actually more like friendly acquaintances. Friends DO want to hear your stuff: The Good, The Bad and The Depressingly Ugly. They're there to support you and have your back through thick and thin, lose and win.

Friendly Acquaintances, on the other hand, are more surface level. They're not there to participate in your joys and triumphs, nor hear your tales of woe. They're down for a friendly greeting, an exchange of small talk or a light story or two. Current stuff going on with you is fine, but nothing too deep! Just shoot the breeze.

So be aware of which category of person you're talking to before diving into the details!

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